Six steps to live happily ever after

What makes love last a lifetime?

Affection? Yep.
Respect? Sure.
But a great relationship is not just about what you have. It's about what you do to make a relationship stronger, safer, more caring and committed.

THE STEPS;

Step #1: Find a shared dream for your life together.

Step #2: Choose each other as your first family.
Whatever your challenges -- an overprotective mom? an overly critical father-in-law? -- you have to outline together the boundaries between you and all of the families connected to you. Not only will you feel stronger as a united front but when you stick to your shared rules, all that family baggage will weigh on you a lot less.

Step #3: Learn how to fight right.
Fighting right doesn't just mean not throwing produce; it means staying focused on the issue at hand and respecting each other's perspective. Couples that fight right also find ways to defuse the tension, says Wile -- often with humor. "Whenever one of us wants the other to listen up, we mime hitting the TV remote, a thumb pressing down on an invisible mute button," says Nancy, 52, an event producer in San Francisco. "It cracks us up, in part because it must look insane to others." Even if you fight a lot, when you can find a way to turn fights toward the positive -- with a smile, a quick apology, an expression of appreciation for the other person -- the storm blows away fast, and that's what matters.

Step #4: Find a balance between time for two and time for you.

Step #5: Build a best friendship.
Think about the things that make your closest friendships irreplaceable: the trust that comes with true intimacy, the willingness to be vulnerable, the confidence that the friendship can withstand some conflict. Don't those sound like good things to have in your relationship with your signficant other, too?

Step #6: Face down a major challenge together.
You're sailing along through life, and suddenly you hit a huge bump. A serious illness. Unemployment. The loss of a home. A death in the family. How do you cope?Hey, being a couple is no roll in the hay. It's tough, real work. But the reward, the edifice you build together that will shelter you through years of tough times, is more than worth the effort. The small, friendly cottage you build -- decorated with your shared history and stories, filled with color and laughter -- will be the warmest and safest retreat you can imagine.

me

munira is having a hard time.full stop.

I

Its my 2nd day as a vacation trainee.
Even though i'm tired and don't really get used to work loads, but i think for the moment, i enjoyed it. even i have not start the real work yet, but i try my best to do all the task as best as i cud.
but, pd mase saat ini...i dok pk je. mcm mane esok ni. i know i really and must tell janet or melissa that i am not purposely punched the original script from LHDN but i either i like it or not i hv to say that i did. its my 1st time n 1st day of filing things, i really hope tomorrow dorg xmarah i gile2..malu siot.tp, i think they will..n of coz i kne cari blk the whole set of files yg i rase i letak thatparticular LHDN script. tomorrow will be a very a tiring day i think. but, its my mistake.so have to face it. admit it and btolkan blk kn. =(

*be strong munira!*

terbang..

terbang tinggi2
sampai cucur atap.
(xtau la btol ke x..)

yup.its true.and nothing is impossible in this world. just be positive, take any possibilities, be confident, and you will find it not so hard to get what you want. your destiny is in your hand. keep on moving.never stop or turning back.just be yourself.

goodluck to me, to my friends..already missing you girls...xoxo

ade ke patut????

ade ke patut...
u used other people money then when they findout,
u dun even say sorry
or at least mintak halalkan la kn.
ni buat bodoh muke dungu je.
patut ke?

dahla tu, pastu memanipulate story plak tu.
bencinye.
tolonglah ok just admit ur mistakes,
people wont get angry when u tell them the truth
they will go crazily mad if u keep on lying.
btol x?

tolong la ok.
PLEASE!

SAMBUNGAN...

beberapa hari kemudian..

Lini berase sangat2 terkilan dgn sikap min yang lagsung tidak ambilpeduli atau pon rase bersalah. Sejak itu, lini tidak mampu utk bersua dgn min kerana rasa sakit hati yyg meluap. menyedari keadaan itu, min bertanye kepada ain punca lini berkelakuan begitu.

min: ain, kite nk tanye something la.
ain: (berdebar) ape dia?
min: kenapa dengan lini? tiap kali kita bercakap dengan dia, dia mcm nak eak dari kite.
ain: (menerangkan keadaan yg menjadi punca perubahan sikap lini terhadap min)
min: la, buatpe nak panic, lepas kelas blh buat kan
ain: awk tau x menda tu kena anta before pkol 10?
min: la, kena anta pkol 10 ke? kite xtau pon...

reaction from lini bile diberitahu conversation tersebut:
'kepala hotak ko xtau kena anta before pkol 10! yg aku ckp pada ko depan2 before hari anta tu mendanye. ckp ngan tunggul kayu lagi dengar agaknye. pekak gamak nye.

maka, bertambah lah skt hati lini kepada min. tp, min seorang hati batu tidak akan mengaku kesilapan dia dan sentiasa menganggap diri dia seorg yg sgt baik.

*short story dari kisah benar.

here is a story of two person WHO USED TO BE tolerate with each other.

1 day before submission: (after a semester break)

mase kelas management. dorg ddk blkg2.lecturer pn ddk blkg,dgr presentation.
alin: hei, kne submit today la. before 5pm.
lini: ape? (panic) alamak...
min, kne anta assignment ethic arini la.b4 pkol 5pm (byk lg ok x buat) *min ddk depan dorg
min: (hanye mengangguk)
lini: (toleh ke alin) ape lg yg kne ade?
alin: dh buat memo?
lini: blom (mampos)
alin: kne buat memo..2 memo...(alin explain pd lini)
lini: byk nye lg..dh la ptg ni kne anta.
(min buat bodo je ddk dpn tu wpn dh dibgtau)

after kelas, min tunggu lini. pastu ikot pegi cyber cafe, lini kena jelaskan satu2 pd min blk. pastu dia buat. kelam kabut. tibe2 dpt message dari alin:
' u, assignment ethic boleh anta esok before 10am'
seronok rasenye mase tu..tros pegi ke min.
lini: min, ethic boleh anta esok pagi, before pukul 10.
min: (senyum sahaja)

hari submission esok pagi.kelas ais kat computer lab.

here is the point: lini duduk bersebelahan tempat lecturer (dr) jalan and min duduk di blk tiang di bhgn depan.

8.30am
lini pegi ke alin dan mendapat terdapat kesilapan kesulurahan dates yg telah dibuat. maka, pembetulan baru perlu dibuat segera sebab nak kena anta pada pkol 10am.
sedang lini membetulkn kesalahan, dr lalu lalang di tepi beliau. maka, tanpa rase segan, lini ke tempat min untuk meminta bantuan.

lini: min, tolong.byk lg salah jugak lagi ni. dates smua salah.kene btolkan. kite dah buat smua items ni just kena btolkan the dates and masuk kan dalam the forms. dr dok lalu lalang tepi kite, susah nk buat. awk tepi tiang ni, sng sket.ni contoh dari alin.tgk2 la.
min: (sekadar mengangguk.)

9.15am
lini mengusha min memastikan min membantu. namun, hampa. file yg diberikan masih berada di sisi meja. dan min sebok bermain message di handphone nya. terus lini ke arah min bertanya.

lini: min dh btolkan ke x.?
min: blom, sbb dr pn MCM nmpk kite je. (pdhal ddk blkg tiang.lini ddk tmpt dr lalu lalalng ok)

lini mula berasa skt ati.dh la nak kene anta before 10pg. dh ckp dh smlm.
lini meminta min cube cepat kan buat pembetulan tersbut dan min hanye mengangguk.

9.40am
file masih di sisi meja.lini mula panic.hanye lagi 20min mase utk menghantar. lantas, terus dia ke meja min dan mengambil file2 tersebut. sungguh sgt sakit hati.terus kluar dari kelas untuk siapkan assignment tersebut.
min tidak lagsung mengambil peduli.

10am
lini menghantar file2 assignment tersebut.namun min langsung tak bunyi or tanye pun berkenaan projek tersebut

-END OF DAY-

hingga ke akhirnya

sape sangka

empat tahun di sini akhirnya akan kutinggalkan jua.

bile lagi akan ku menjejak kan diri di sini

ku pun tidak pasti.

tapi

kenangan di sini

akan tetap ku bawa bersama

terlalu pahit

terlalu manis

untuk ku lupakan.

sedih bila dipikirkan

tp apakah daya

masa telah memanggilku pulang

ke tanah kelahiranku.

akan ku teruskan perjuangan ini

walaupun tidak bersama

tetap dikenang.

Im wondering why..

knp ade certain people yg x sedar kesilapan diri?

situation 1:

buat assignment same2, when there are lots of mistakes need to be correct, dia buat xtau. kononnye, time class kena focus on the lectures..BUT then the next day, a BOYfriend called asking her to meet at 9 (class starts at 8 until 10), cepat je dia nk kluar..geramnye..nape ek?

situation 2:

ckp orang tp dia pn gitu jgk.

siap bile 'kwn' org tu dtg, diala yg plg sebok skali..

menyampah kan?

mmg sgt2.

pikir diri tu innocent sgt but for the matter of fact the whole house dh naik geram ngan perangai dia. sedar la kesilapan diri tu sket, if nk story, too long.ni summary je. PUH-LEASSSSE.

to those who yg terase or tau clearly what am i talking about, sorry if it hurts a lot.

ESOK HARI RAYE ESOK HARI RAYE

WISHING ALL MUSLIMS

SELAMAT HARI RAYE
MAA ZAHIR & BATIN

aaaarrghh..when it will stop!

KENAPE...
kenapa smua ni jd kat aku.aku buat ape kat kau yg kau suke sktkn ati aku sgt2.
kenapa ko prangai cm2 a?
kenape ko ni x abes2 lg x sdar2 diri pas2 kate ak yg gitu plak
i had enough r ko tau x.
menyampahnye!!!

KENAPE
kenape
kenape
KEnApe!!!
beNciNYE!!!

TORN

yup.and it HurTs a lot.but i need to move on.no matter what is await in front of me, still i need to move on.i just need some time and space to get my self back on track.i need to be tough at least for myself.i have a dream, wish lists to make it come true. i cannot follow my broken heart and in the end i lost everything.can't i? i wont let it happen. I'll handle all possibilities or impossibilities in front of me with full-hearted.xde sape2 boleh halang.no one.





*do you really thing i care?? i don't and i wont!!

tonite

tonight, staying up late surfing the internet,wasting times..
tonight,i thinking of things that happened to me..things happened for reasons.yup.i suppose i believed in that because its happening now.and i think happiness is on her way.
i don't know what should i say or write, i just feel i want to.
so i pun merepek merapu dan meraban..

after 4 years living in a place where i used to not knowing anyone, now i feel like i belong to the place. its upsetting thinking of sooner or later in a month or less i will living.living all the memories that I've created.moving onto the new stage of life.i learn a lot in the 4 memorable years. life.friends;some are true friends,some pretending to be a friend.BUT they are still what i so-called-my-friends.i don't care if they do talk about me behind my back.because as a matter of fact, no one is perfect.

i don't know what should i write...blur..=(

today

It was like yesterday. I woke up at early morn to sahur and thoughts come through my mind…Thinking of what will I do today, hoping that today is better than yesterday?

Yesterday? I had done nothing. Slept until noon and woke up realizing that I've wasted my time. I should have used those time studying CSP as the test is around the corner. But, this is me. Never put priority in life. Always let the time past by. Never make it worth. I've tried to change, but maybe I don’t try hard or I don’t really want to…always dreaming. Always dreaming to be the best to everyone. But what did I do? NOTHING.

Today, I have plan. (I always have plans, almost everyday I do have plans, even I do have an organizer to organize my daily life, but…it always come out as just a plan). I've plan to go to the library and study CSP. Let’s see what will happen today...=)

Life, have the ups and downs... in my life, I feel like everything going down. It become worse and far worse as the days move on…what will happen if days become a week and week comes to a month…Everything that I do is worthless. Why does everyone never learn to appreciate? They always ask for more. Sometime I’m sick with what people ask me to do, tell me what should I do, can I have my own way? My own life? Why does everyone have to order this and that…and which is worse telling me that I’m wrong. I’m trying to do my best…can’t anyone see that? Gosh! I think it will be better living in mars or Pluto, or any other places that people won’t bother what others are doing. And always correcting other people mistakes and never sees theirs.

at 330pm, me, in the library, trying to find courage to focus on my CSP. targeting to score on the test..people around me, chatting on the ym, finding information through the internet, and talking on their own bahasa, while me, i know what im suppose to do. now, i need some space and time to give my full attention and commitment to my CSP. wish me luck!

10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU

I hate the way you talk to me
And the way you cut your hair
I hate the way you drive my car
I hate it when you stare

I hate your big dumb combat boots
And the way you read my mind
I hate you so much that it makes me sick
It even makes me rhyme

I hate the way you're always right
I hate it when you lie
I hate it when you make me laugh
Even worse when you make me cry

I hate the way you're not around
And the fact that you didn't call
But mostly I hate the way I don't hate you
Not even close,not even a little bit, not even at all.